Supporting your child through a difficult experience (like being humiliated, failing an important exam, losing a friend, living through your divorce, etc.) does not mean helping her to see "the silver lining" or to know that things will get better. True support is allowing her to cry on your shoulder until she feels better. Just being there is what she needs most from you. What YOU need most is the courage to refrain from trying to change the way she's feeling when she's feeling that bad.